Mind over Matter – The Matter of Choice

Mind over Matter – The Matter of Choice.

The time we are in right now has its challenges. How we choose to live is a matter of choice. All of the stress, worry, fears, anxiety, feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and so on, are choices which can be conquered. The alternative being that we are in control of all of our thoughts and emotions, feeling centred and focused. Every moment of every day we have choice. We can react or choose to respond. Reacting is easy – it is something we do habitually. If we choose to respond it takes practice; the rewards are enormous. Feeling good is a choice. When we learn to make good choices for ourselves we get out of what drags us down. Most of us don’t like to see others suffering – so why would we do it to ourselves?

Here is an exercise to help connect with the joy of being self -empowered:

Imagine that sitting on your knee is a loved one; It could be your younger self, your child, grandchild or someone close to you. They are scared of ‘something’. How would you soothe and calm them? Have an imaginary conversation with them, kissing and caressing them, notice what they say, how they look, notice tastes and smells – how do you feel, how do you imagine they feel? As this exercise progresses notice how they are calmer and calmer. Perhaps they start to smile or laugh. Now notice how you are feeling. You should have accessed that part of you that ‘knows’ in this moment that all is well right now.

Right now is all we ever have. Practice, practice, practice. You and your loved ones will thank you for it. Maybe it won’t get expressed verbally, just notice how your environment becomes calmer and happier and enjoy those ripples.

Peace, Health, Abundance & Prosperity to You.

Time to help ourselves

Self help.

We are living in strange times aren’t we? While writing this I was due to be on my way to London for my flight to Nashville. So much can change in a split second. An idea, excited plans made, anticipation, then plans changed ‘due to circumstances beyond my control’. Here I reach a ‘choice point’. Am I a victim or do I see the ‘gift’? Whatever happens about the flight will be taken care of. There are many millions of people in the same position as me and the mighty machine of travel agents and tour operators are working themselves ‘flat out’ to resolve issues I’m pretty certain.

My way of life is one of being away from media. TV ‘programmes’ including the ‘news’, news – ‘papers’, and social media are something I find myself distancing from, positive or good events don’t sell or captivate people that much (or do they)? You may be asking yourself how I know what is going on in the world? Other people tell me and also my own observations. Let’s take the example of shopping. To say it’s pretty unusual out there is an understatement. Christmas and Easter come to my mind. In those times our shops may close for a day. For weeks before there is some sort of frenzy going on. It was something I did too, back then. We are experiencing the same right now - only much, much worse. Panic buying, the fear of running out of something. What a great time to observe humankind. One local supermarket emailed to ask customers to only buy what they would normally, telling us that there would be enough for everyone. The result? Shelves looking more depleted day by day. I have been told about workers filming warehouses full of food and other ‘essentials’ and this being posted on social media for all to see, but it has little to no effect.

When we stop and really think about what is happening is there anything we can change? We can take the precautions advised. Nature will take its own course. Panic helps no-one. My own belief is that if we can all just remain calm everything will be fine. Most clients that come for sessions have an underlying worry or fear of ‘no control’. What is happening right now brings this up to the surface for us to deal with. If we stay in the ‘helpless/hopeless’ mode, then we will experience nothing which helps us; however, if we can recognise it as fear, that is the moment we take our power back and make changes.

Wanting to change comes first. What can you do for yourself? There are so many things. This time can be a real gift for your own healing journey if you want it to be. Many people have lost the ability to communicate. We are in an age of computers, games, social media – all of these have the potential to isolate us from others; but they can also do the opposite, giving us connection. Social interaction is certainly a possibility. Where visits are out of the question there is

always the phone for voice or video calling. Start looking for what is possible. Do some journaling, write (anything). When was the last time you read a book? Perhaps some home baking – experiment with recipes? De-clutter (very cathartic), decorate your home, sing, play music, dance, exercise, read, meditate, watch some comedy, colouring, play games, gardening, knitting, sewing, woodwork, metalwork, photography, start an online course – if money is an issue then many courses are free, all it takes is research. Let your artistic and creative side blossom and grow. Go for a walk, meet up with friends. What did you like to do as a child, that you enjoyed so much you lost all sense of time? If you dream of retirement – what is it specifically that you are looking forward to? What stops you dipping into it right now? These are just a few ideas – how many more can you come up with?

Catch yourself when you go into worrying thoughts and remind yourself by looking around that it is your mind taking you somewhere else. Look outside your window, look around you – is anything bad really happening where you are right now; chances are the answer is no. Reach out to someone. Talk or write to a friend, relative, neighbour. You will be surprised how much better you feel. Sometimes extra help is needed, in those cases seek professional help.

The stories we’ve been told about wartime and human spirit have often been uplifting. That spirit is still within us. Nothing is forever; nothing will ever stop or become stuck, life evolves and changes. Out of chaos comes something new and often better. Change can be uncomfortable, learn to go with it. Learn to just ‘be’ – in the moment you are in. Now is the time for us to find the generosity in our hearts and the gift of love to nurture ourselves and those around us to bring us through these ‘interesting’ times.

Abundance, Health and Prosperity to you all.

This feels like coming home

I'm just thinking about what I was going to say, follow up video, to the one previously. I have noticed that, and I think I may have said it in the first video but it, this feels like coming home.

Its interesting over the last few years watching the Habilitat videos, watching the rank table at the end where all the practitioners speak, seeing practitioners crying.

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Memories, held in the body

This is Patricia (Carol) and it is Saturday the forth of February, and I'm in Hawaii - Habilitat the rehabilitation centre. We've just finished our two weeks of working with residents on a voluntary basis.

I just thought I would make another video to update you on what's happened in the last two weeks.  As you can hear I have a bit of a sore throat and it's been interesting noticing what goes on inside of me as I'm here, the work for the residents has been absolutely phenomenal.  I've gained more confidence.  We have worked with the addictions and so in that respect it's been absolutely amazing.

This sore throat relates to life outside of Hawaii.  So before I came, it's the way I hold whatever goes on inside of me.  So for me I have recognized that I have had difficulty speaking, saying things I needed to say.  Through the past right from childhood and I've held it together “held it together” as you do, and now the two weeks of working with clients residents is over, it's almost like, no it's not almost like - it is time to relax and rest.

I've got two days before I leave in the early hours of Monday morning to come home to England and my body has sort of held it together and then at the end I feel very tired whereas normally I would feel quite energized.

So all these memories have started popping up for me, and they're all connected with being able to speak my truth and my voice, so it's just interesting how that relates to how we hold things in our body, which was what I wanted to share with you.

So I'm going to use the next few days on the way home to connect with those memories and clear those memories and just watch the voice improve.

Yea, that's it,  I'm just going to post it as it is again, because that's how I feel I need to work, so you've got me as it is and i might put another one back on in a minute as well so thank you for watching.

Memories, interesting how that relates to how we hold things in our body.


What I have learned…


Hi everyone this is Carol, this is my first video, my first ever video and I am here in Habilitat in Hawaii working with some other practitioners with the residents here.

Why I make this first video today is, because it’s really Interesting, what we find out about ourselves.

And one of the biggest things I discovered since I’ve been here is, I’ve made friends with a beautiful bird called Lilly and Lilly is a little bit, one of the residences calls her, bipolar.

So today for example we’ve had what I would call a snugly time, so three quarters of an hour on my knee and I have been allowed to pet her and I’ve been feeling really really good but as soon as she got on the arm she bit me.

Now the reason this is on making this video today is because when I came away and thought about what had happened.

I realized that actually my language, today I’ve been identifying things that have happened with me in the past and calling different people vicious.

So I’ve attracted vicious people into my life and what attracted or may have been in my life whatever it is, It’s interesting that the biggest nips I have had from this bird has been today when I’ve used the word vicious a few times and the bird has been vicious with me.

So I am using my skills as a Fastereft user on myself to let go of the viciousness that has been in my life because it’s no longer real. I am here right here right now, nothing in my life is vicious so this is just something I’ve got to let go and along with that it’s a challenge for me to make this video and I’ve decided, however it turns out this is what I’m going to post, this is real, this is raw, this is me and check out this beautiful island.

It is just amazing, this is for us in the UK, this is our winter and the air here is just so warm. It’s like a cool summers day, it’s so calm and peaceful. I know it’s windy but it’s a warm wind, it’s a trade wind and that also brings me onto something else.

Since I’ve been here, there’s been a song going through my mind and it’s Randy Crawford, The trade winds of our minds and I think what I am doing what I’ve done in the past few

years is learned how to calm those trade winds in my mind and if things are affecting me this is my choice I can choose another way, I can choose to just tap it out and let it go, because here and now this is my world, this is my reality and what a beautiful place to be in a trade wind, Hawaii 29th of January 2017 and this is me checking out from my very first video. Thank you for watching.


The blogging journey starts here…..

Each day is indeed a ‘new day’, and today is the first real blog on my website.  I also have a video interview which was done by a fellow practitioner posted on YouTube today – this is all totally different to the person I have presented to the world for many parts of my life.

All of this links with the theme of the interview – ‘trust’. Programmes from the past which kept me safe from perceived harm and vulnerability, which also prevented me from being seen and public, hence, in the world of business holding myself back.

As I go inside of myself more and more, checking out what is going on there I am amazed at how successful I am and at what I do.  We all do the same, but in our own deliciously magnificent and different ways – we are all such successful creators, and none of us are broken.  It is when we focus on or allow everything or everyone ‘out there’ to influence us we lose our power to be authentic.  The danger is that when we totally focus on the external life we can also lose ourselves.  This is what happened to me in the past.  I was so busy being a wife, mother, taxi driver for children, doing my job and helping others I didn’t have time for me.  Learning to give myself permission to just ‘be’ with myself and not escape into everything else took time and patience, persistence, self love and forgiveness.  If any of this resonates with you, give yourself permission right now to feel what you are feeling, see what you are seeing, hear everything around you, taste life, smell the roses and begin the journey back to you.

This is the interview that Kim Brown did with me – learn to be vulnerable and trust!